[Parentsgroup-list] Toddler travel/cautionary nanny story

Emily Kalejs Qazilbash ekq728 at mail.harvard.edu
Mon Nov 10 14:45:20 EST 2008


Hi all,

A very small note - our playdough was confiscated on a flight from
Denver to Boston last time. Not a big deal, except that playdough was
my primary diversion technique! I guess it counts somewhere as an
illegal substance. I had the small containers, too.

Happy travels,
Emily

On Mon, Nov 10, 2008 at 1:24 PM, Kara Swanson <kswanson at fas.harvard.edu> wrote:
> Hi all,
>
> On the toddler travel thread -- having done a lot of it -- I second all the
> advice, and add an emphasis on manipulatives -- someway to engage little
> bodies when they can't move.  I got great mileage out of lacing kits (sewing
> around cardboard shape -- even better if you can sew a train and play with
> it).  One trip was saved by a beading kit with big soft sponge-like beads,
> that required that the hole be punched out before they could be strung --
> punching out the hole was an engaging challenge for the right age.  And
> finally small jars of Play dough -- a bit messy, but not too bad, and very
> tactile.  I always brought lots of new stuff.
>
> Separate thread:  I just heard a unfortunately true cautionary nanny story
> from old friends, and I pass it along on the hopes that it will never happen
> to anyone else.  Their long-time nanny, whom they had taken great efforts to
> make legal, by paying her employment taxes, formally putting her on their
> car insurance (as she drove their kids), etc., fell down their basement
> steps and badly injured her head.  She was hospitalized, unable to work for
> months, and incurred large medical expenses.  They learned to their horror
> that their homeowner's insurance did not protect them because she was on
> their property as an employee, not as a guest, and that they are fully
> liable for her costs.  (She had no health insurance).  What they needed,
> they found out too late, was workmen's compensation coverage, which their
> insurance company never talked to them about.  Not sure how this plays out
> for those of us who rent, and their saga is in a different state, but I pass
> it along, because raising the issue with one's insurance carrier now could
> save one from what has become a big emotional and financial strain for their
> family.
>
> Cheers,
>
> Kara
>
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> Re: [Parentsgroup-list] toddler traveling - harness pros/cons?
> From:
> "Jennifer Roloff Welch" <roloffje at gmail.com>
> Date:
> Mon, 10 Nov 2008 08:30:06 -0800
> To:
> "Andrea Heberlein" <heberlein at wjh.harvard.edu>
> To:
> "Andrea Heberlein" <heberlein at wjh.harvard.edu>
> CC:
> Judith Scott-Clayton <Judith_Scott-Clayton at ksgphd.harvard.edu>,
> parentsgroup-list at lists.hcs.harvard.edu
> Dear Judy,
> I have traveled several times by plane with my little girl who is now almost
> three years old.
>
> About the harness: I got my daughter a little monkey backpack/harness from
> Walmart, which worked perfectly to be able to grab onto the little "tail" so
> she could be walking on her own, but I could have a hold of her in case
> there was lots of pedestrian traffic (at the airport). She also loved the
> backpack idea, and I put special little new toys in the little zipper
> part---surprises which she could pull out along the trip. I highly recommend
> this backpack/harness for peace of mind and to let the little one explore
> without giving you a panic attack. When the tail/handle is not needed, I
> just tuck it in the backpack itself, and then it just looks like a backpack.
> I've also used it at the apple orchard where there were lots of people
> walking around. I don't see anything inhumane about it, and the one I got
> just looks like a regular backpack...it doesn't hurt and it's not used to
> pull her around, only to grab hold if she gets too far away. She also loved
> to be able to walk on her own without my holding her hand or pushing her in
> the stroller. And since I was wearing a backpack too, she enjoyed having the
> "same-same" as Mom.
>
> I also recommend "various other doodads" as A. does below---little new
> toys, gadgets that your child hasn't seen before, that will capture her
> interest during the flight.
> And drinking or sucking a pacifier or thumb during take-off and landing is
> very important for their little ears.
> Best wishes!
> Jenni
> On Mon, Nov 10, 2008 at 8:21 AM, Andrea Heberlein
> <heberlein at wjh.harvard.edu> wrote:
>>
>> Seconding the present idea-- I took a couple of 13-hour flights with my
>> son at 15 months and books of stickers (with pads of paper for sticking them
>> on), and various other doodads (spinning light-up toys, etc.) were a
>> life-saver.
>>
>> Another thing to consider: I'm not sure if your kid is still nursing (or
>> ever did), but pressure changes on planes can be extra painful for little
>> ears, and swallowing during take-off and landing can help a lot.  (One less
>> reason to scream en route!)  Our ped. recommended tangy candies (e.g.
>> Skittles) for our kid when he was a little older than yours is now-- he now
>> thinks of Skittles as "airplane candy". Bottles or sippy cups of some
>> favored liquid are good too-- the only time our kid got undiluted apple
>> juice was for flights, because we could be sure he'd guzzle it at take-off
>> and landing.
>>
>> Good luck--
>> A.
>>
>> At 10:43 AM -0500 11/10/08, Ceceley Chambers wrote:
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>> The best advice I got about traveling with toddlers is the present idea:
>>  You get a bunch of little toys, books, small activity set type things and
>> wrap them.  As the trip progresses you give her one toy to unwrap and play
>> with, and as gets bored with one item you give her a new item to unwrap!
>>  This worked so well for my daughter when she was that age and it still
>> works when they get older (the last time we traveled she was 4 and it still
>> worked beautifully).  Also, you don't necessarily have to buy new things,
>> you might even be able to take some of her older toys that she doesn't play
>> with as much and wrap those.  The fun is in the unwrapping and discovery.
>>
>> As for the harness, I have always frowned upon them for many reasons- but
>> the main one being that it really doesn't gave her that much more freedom.
>>  I always found that a back-carrier or stroller and lots of snacks worked
>> well for us as we walked around the airport and pointed out all of the new
>> and exciting things.
>>
>> Good luck!
>>
>> Ceceley
>>
>> Ceceley Chambers
>> MDiv II
>> Harvard Divintity School
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: parentsgroup-list-bounces at lists.hcs.harvard.edu on behalf of Judith
>> Scott-Clayton
>> Sent: Mon 11/10/2008 9:45 AM
>> To: parentsgroup-list at lists.hcs.harvard.edu
>> Subject: [Parentsgroup-list] toddler traveling - harness pros/cons?
>>
>> Dear group,
>>
>>
>>
>> We're taking our 18-month old on a big adventure for thanksgiving
>> involving two 3-hr flights with a layover in between.  From what I
>> understand from other parents, 18 months is a rough age for traveling and I
>> have to admit we're a bit worried as she really doesn't want to sit still
>> for any length of time.
>>
>>
>>
>> Two separate but related questions:
>>
>> 1. We're considering looking for one of those harness-y type things so
>> that Astrid can have some degree of freedom to run around the airport
>> without straying too far.  I've seen these in use before but have never
>> actually talked to anyone who's used one. Are they inhumane?  Thoughts?
>> Better ideas?  It's difficult to imagine how one actually gets the child in
>> the harness, given that right now it's a struggle to get her in the stroller
>> or even the backpack, but maybe kids like it?
>>
>> 2. Any other miracle tips for plane travel with 18-month old who doesn't
>> want to sit still?  Or is it just a matter of "grin & bear it" until we get
>> to our destination?
>>
>>
>>
>> Advice appreciated,
>>
>> Judy
>>
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