[Parentsgroup-list] Dear parents, I need your help and support

Debrah Rud debrah_rud at student.hms.harvard.edu
Mon Oct 29 14:22:56 EDT 2007

Hi Liza,

Firstly, don't worry, this will work out. Many women have faced challenges
like this and have made it through. I have found that things seem much more
difficult when you are worrying about it than they actually are in reality.

I'm a GSAS PhD student in Virology and I took a year leave of absence when I
had my son. I definitely recommend this. I taught during my leave of
absence, but that was it.

My best advice is to stay calm, don't worry too much, and find out what
Harvard can do to help you.

Congratulations - even though this is unexpected, it is quite a blessing.

Let me know if there is anything else I can answer.


On 10/29/07 1:59 PM, "Elizaveta S. Leshchiner (Trukhanova)"
<eleshch at fas.harvard.edu> wrote:

> Dear Harvard parents,
> I m' sorry for bothering all of you, but I desperately need an advice and
> help.
> I'm first year grad student in GSAS (chemistry) and I came here with my
> husband
> and son who is 10 month old now. After I started studying here I found that
> I'm
> expecting again and the due date is around the beginning of May. This
> pregnancy
> is absolutely unexpected.
> Now I'm extremely stressed: I don't know how to plan my next couple semesters.
> I
> have to teach in spring and fall 2008 (which I'm most nervious about, because
> if
> I disappear in the end of semester, what will happen to my students, they have
> to pass exams etc), I also have to take classes (which I'm not too concerned
> about though, I think I could deal with it). I also have to rotate in the labs
> and find an advisor for my graduate research, so I don't think I could take
> next semester off.
> I know that there is something like a leave of absence, I'm not sure for how
> long you can leave. My husband will be able to take a leave from his job for
> May and June.
> In my department apparently there are no students with children, maybe here
> people had similar situations (especially students)? How did you deal with it?
> Any advice or your experience would be so much appreciated!! I just keep
> thinking about all these problems over and over and keep feeling guilty and
> stressed.
> Thank you all so much in advance! Hope I'm not bothering you too much
> Liza
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