[Parentsgroup-list] Ground rules

David Vader vader at fas.harvard.edu
Tue Aug 2 10:35:48 EDT 2005

I would like to thank Anna for pointing out those essential rules of 
e-mailing, which are easily forgotten. I think that the point of this 
e-mailing list is to bring together grad student parents so that we can 
benefit from each other's experiences and knowledge, as well as work 
together to improve the situation here at Harvard hopefully.
I think, therefore, that it is of primary importance that we focus on 
our common goals and issues, rather than our differences, since that is 
what this parents group is all about in my opinion. If we are not 
careful of what we write and how we write it, then this group can very 
quickly disintegrate, and that would be a shame, not only for us, but 
also for all the future grad student parents for whom we're hoping to 
better the conditions within this campus.

- Dave, parent of 5-month old Milo in Brookline

Anna Shusterman wrote:
> It seems to me that this group would benefit from establishing a few
> ground rules. This might allow us to keep one thread for the group
> instead of separating into a practical-yet-boring thread and a
> lively-yet-mud-slinging thread.
> Here are a few guidelines to get us started:
> 1. Remember that email is a blunt medium. Subtle things like innuendo
> and sarcasm, even when light-hearted, are frequently misinterpreted,
> especially in a group where everyone does not know each other very
> well and where the topics of discussion are often personal.
> 2. No personal attacks.
> 3. Value each other's unique experiences and individual solutions to
> our common parenting/academic dilemmas. Maybe even learn from each
> other.
> 4. Meet face to face, because that can take the bitterness out of
> these debates. To that end, I reiterate the invitation to meet on 8/19
> at Walden Pond.
> I realize these things may sound self-explanatory, but since things
> have already gotten a little out of hand and feelings hurt , we may as
> well back up and establish some common parameters for discussion. I,
> for one, am really happy that this group exists at all and I would
> like us not to self-destruct if at all possible.
> -Anna
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